“I want you to get out of your seat, stick your head out of the window and shout I’m as mad as hell and I’m not going to take it anymore!”
Can you relate to this? Where you find yourself in a state of mind where you just can’t break free from negative thinking? And this low feeling just zaps your focus and energy?
When someone text me recently with these feelings, rather than giving some advice I thought to myself, what do I generally do?
After a bit of thought, I came up with these three simple things that I do to improve my state of mind.
Listen to music. Research studies have shown you can become happier by listening to upbeat music. So, find your favourite playlist (if you haven’t got one, time to create one). Do it on YouTube or Spotify, it’s easier now than ever. Find your guilty pleasures, you’re all time faves, or the forgotten classics, whatever it is, plug in your headphones and let the music work it’s magic. I struggle with focus after lunchtime for some reason. I learned that listening to music always gets me energised and through this period.
Write it down. A few years back I had a falling out with my next door neighbour. I felt terrible for days afterwards. I wasn’t sure how to proceed or even how to feel, my mind filled so many emotions. One evening, I just started writing down what happened and expressing how I felt. It wasn’t something I did much of back then, but I just found myself typing. All of a sudden I felt clarity and objectivity about the situation, my thoughts weren’t jumbled up emotions any more and I knew how to proceed.
Years later we shook hands and we lived in relative normality, but looking back if I realise that if hadn’t have written this down, then I would have kept these feelings of anger and pain all locked up inside and let it bring me down. Getting it down on paper, in a notebook, how you feel and what you want to happen brings clarity and objectivity. I found some interesting points regarding the health benefits of journaling at this article over at Psych Central.
Get out of the house. For me, sometimes just stepping out of the boundaries of my house in the evening can all of sudden raise my spirits. When I was tired from a long day, travelling and training the last thing I wanted to do was leave the house. I just wanted to go to sit in front of the television and not do anything. But I had things to do. I am lucky, I had a dog that needed walking and he would put his face very close to mine when he wanted a walk (which he still does). After the walk, I would come back surprised as to how refreshed I felt, returning with a renewed sense of purpose and direction, even after feeling tired and lethargic. I’m not making this up, this is actually how I felt.
So those are three very simple things that I do, and we can all do to raise our mood and lift our spirits. I’m sure there are lots of other ideas out there, e.g. gratitude. Next, how do we keep these feelings of positivity and hope?
I hope this helps and thanks for reading.
Have a great day.